What is Transmisogyny?
Posted: Sat Nov 15, 2025 3:22 pm
Over the course of the past ten years, and … I really can’t believe I’m saying “ten years.” Has it been that long? But, over the years, I’ve been in a lot of different online spaces. I’ve been deep in the discourse. From Tumblr, to Reddit, to Twitter, and back again. But, there’s something that’s been kind of bothering me, and I feel like when I take the time to fully write out a real post, it sort of stops me from sounding angry, like I’ve got knives in my mouth.
What I’ve noticed though, is that, now, across social media, and especially on Bluesky, there’s … a whole new generation of fresh-out-of-high-school trans people, and I’m noticing that points and ideas that were argued to death years ago, are back again. Being argued, again. I don’t know if this is an issue with the fact that these things have been discussed across different networks and are lost to the tunnels and tubes of the net, or that learning, and discussing things, is really only something that lasts in the social memory of those who were there, and then there’s this cut-off point where that information just never travels.
And so, we’re back again. We’re arguing against people in our own communities who are resurrecting the idea of “misandry” and “transmisandry” as a real concept. As if everybody’s forgotten the numerous pieces written on this back in like … 2014. Like everyone’s forgotten that one gif set.
Misandry can’t be a real concept, because misogyny is something that exists across an axis of oppression. And, unfortunately, we live in a society where women are oppressed. Cis, and trans. And, I don’t think it’s divisive to say that men hold the reigns to that axis. Maybe you don’t intend to snap those reigns. Maybe you don’t participate in it, or make a conscious effort not to. And that’s great.
But it’s important to talk about these things, because people are talking about … these things, as if they’re brand new concepts that nobody has ever spoken about before.
It’s important, also, because there are some trans men, even, who believe that they cannot be oppressive, and in fact, it’s the trans women who are oppressing them when we speak about these things. Like, when some trans woman creates an account on Wafrn, and, as some weird litmus test, posts, “I hate men and that includes trans men!” And she gets banned immediately.
Litmus test failed.
Those who don’t experience transmisogyny have, and will continually position that having their feelings hurt by being shown these things, by being told that they are capable of violence and oppression, is, in fact, oppressive to them.
Hurt feelings will never be oppression, if your hurt feelings aren’t pushing you out of a job, or housing, or the act of having food in your mouth.
Like I detailed in my last post on some more personal struggles and violence I’ve experienced, shouting slurs at me and running up on me while I’m sitting in my car is a bit more than hurt feelings. It’s an intended act of violence that I narrowly escaped due only to luck, because I was visibly trans, and visibly a trans woman.
Someone online saying something that makes you feel kinda sad about who you are sucks, but it’s not impacting your daily life in a way that stops you from being able to live and thrive.
As the kids would say, maybe it’s time to touch that grass.
It goes in this really big circle, though, that never gets anywhere, because nobody wants to feel bad, or lonely. Even if, we have to ask people who aren’t trans women, why they’re looking to cure their loneliness in places that aren’t meant for them …
But, what is “misandry,” really?
A fascist misdirection tool created as a concept that asserts that women receive preferential treatment at odds with men, in the discrimination of men. Something that largely became popular around the era of GamerGate and Men’s Rights Activism. If these things don’t sound like something you’ve heard in an Andrew Tate video, I’m not sure how else I can help you conceptualize that this is bad.
Why anyone would make a serious concerted effort to re-compartmentalize and re-invent Men’s Rights Activism within the trans community is beyond me. Unless, of course, we’re hitting this wall again, where discussions and information that has already been discussed and learned years and years ago, just hasn’t traveled. Hasn’t melded with the zeitgeist of modern trans communities. Which puts us in this unfortunate situation, again.
Where even now, I’ll be scrolling the timeline over on the Fediverse, and there are more and more transmisogyny-exempt types posting about how egregious and painful it is to see “those people” (trans women) talking about them in ways that aren’t kind, that don’t make space for them, that make them feel icky and unwelcome.
But, in order to talk about what transmisogyny is, I first have to speak to what the faux concept of “misandry” is, because it’s important to understand how ridiculous the concept is, and know that it is not real. Women cannot oppress men. Trans women cannot oppress trans men.
Transmisogyny is when a trans man on Tumblr asserts that there’s no representation of trans men in media, and his examples of the over-representation of trans women (in said media) are 99% all examples of violent, and transphobic caricatures.
Transmisogyny is when a trans woman’s life, hopes, dreams, and aspirations are ripped away from her, pulled out from under her like a rug, at any slightly perceived transgression. A transgression that can be as simple as asking someone not to misgender her in a slightly pointed and angry way. At which point she spends years trying to convince people she’s not crazy and that she deserves justice, largely, to the sympathy of nearly no one, while simultaneously knowing that if this was any other person, of any other type of gender identification, this wouldn’t have even happened.
Transmisogyny is the expectation that a trans woman must treat your feelings with kid gloves, while disregarding her own.
Transmisogyny is when a politician expresses sexual desires toward trans women all throughout his browser history, and simultaneously legislates away her right to use a bathroom in public, because she’s obviously a man … of whoms’t you treat worse than the cis women in your life.
Transmisogyny is the intersection of misogyny and transphobia that has killed so many of my sisters, that I can’t even count them on one hand. But I can recall most of their faces, because I knew them, if not personally, by casual social discourse.
Transmisogyny is when you read this post and find yourself more angry at the fact that I’ve invalidated the concept of “misandry” rather than angry at the fact that transmisogyny is a deadly weapon that almost everyone loves to wield.
But, okay, I’ll concede. If you’re one of those angry people, you might be thinking, “Well, surely you don’t think that because people within the trans community can be transmisogynists, that they don’t also experience discrimination and oppression?” And I do. I know this.
You see, there was this concept of feminism from even more years and years ago, called, Intersectional Feminism.
And, for some reason, it died. It went under the rug. Everyone forgot about it, just like they forgot about all of these other things.
Or maybe I’ve been living on the wrong side of the internet where people suddenly just don’t talk about this anymore, who knows!
But, hey, if you’re still mad at my words here, I’m sorry. I’ll try to be more considerate next time. Or, maybe, acknowledge that reading this and having this information will have no tangible impact on your daily life that harms you in any way shape or form, and that you totally don't need to add me to your personal hit-list on Bluesky where you've assigned me the label "transmisandrist" with a description that's got more red flags than a Fox News fan at a Trump rally.
Source: https://mkultra.monster/discourse/2025/ ... smisogyny/
What I’ve noticed though, is that, now, across social media, and especially on Bluesky, there’s … a whole new generation of fresh-out-of-high-school trans people, and I’m noticing that points and ideas that were argued to death years ago, are back again. Being argued, again. I don’t know if this is an issue with the fact that these things have been discussed across different networks and are lost to the tunnels and tubes of the net, or that learning, and discussing things, is really only something that lasts in the social memory of those who were there, and then there’s this cut-off point where that information just never travels.
And so, we’re back again. We’re arguing against people in our own communities who are resurrecting the idea of “misandry” and “transmisandry” as a real concept. As if everybody’s forgotten the numerous pieces written on this back in like … 2014. Like everyone’s forgotten that one gif set.
Misandry can’t be a real concept, because misogyny is something that exists across an axis of oppression. And, unfortunately, we live in a society where women are oppressed. Cis, and trans. And, I don’t think it’s divisive to say that men hold the reigns to that axis. Maybe you don’t intend to snap those reigns. Maybe you don’t participate in it, or make a conscious effort not to. And that’s great.
But it’s important to talk about these things, because people are talking about … these things, as if they’re brand new concepts that nobody has ever spoken about before.
It’s important, also, because there are some trans men, even, who believe that they cannot be oppressive, and in fact, it’s the trans women who are oppressing them when we speak about these things. Like, when some trans woman creates an account on Wafrn, and, as some weird litmus test, posts, “I hate men and that includes trans men!” And she gets banned immediately.
Litmus test failed.
Those who don’t experience transmisogyny have, and will continually position that having their feelings hurt by being shown these things, by being told that they are capable of violence and oppression, is, in fact, oppressive to them.
Hurt feelings will never be oppression, if your hurt feelings aren’t pushing you out of a job, or housing, or the act of having food in your mouth.
Like I detailed in my last post on some more personal struggles and violence I’ve experienced, shouting slurs at me and running up on me while I’m sitting in my car is a bit more than hurt feelings. It’s an intended act of violence that I narrowly escaped due only to luck, because I was visibly trans, and visibly a trans woman.
Someone online saying something that makes you feel kinda sad about who you are sucks, but it’s not impacting your daily life in a way that stops you from being able to live and thrive.
As the kids would say, maybe it’s time to touch that grass.
It goes in this really big circle, though, that never gets anywhere, because nobody wants to feel bad, or lonely. Even if, we have to ask people who aren’t trans women, why they’re looking to cure their loneliness in places that aren’t meant for them …
But, what is “misandry,” really?
A fascist misdirection tool created as a concept that asserts that women receive preferential treatment at odds with men, in the discrimination of men. Something that largely became popular around the era of GamerGate and Men’s Rights Activism. If these things don’t sound like something you’ve heard in an Andrew Tate video, I’m not sure how else I can help you conceptualize that this is bad.
Why anyone would make a serious concerted effort to re-compartmentalize and re-invent Men’s Rights Activism within the trans community is beyond me. Unless, of course, we’re hitting this wall again, where discussions and information that has already been discussed and learned years and years ago, just hasn’t traveled. Hasn’t melded with the zeitgeist of modern trans communities. Which puts us in this unfortunate situation, again.
Where even now, I’ll be scrolling the timeline over on the Fediverse, and there are more and more transmisogyny-exempt types posting about how egregious and painful it is to see “those people” (trans women) talking about them in ways that aren’t kind, that don’t make space for them, that make them feel icky and unwelcome.
But, in order to talk about what transmisogyny is, I first have to speak to what the faux concept of “misandry” is, because it’s important to understand how ridiculous the concept is, and know that it is not real. Women cannot oppress men. Trans women cannot oppress trans men.
Transmisogyny is when a trans man on Tumblr asserts that there’s no representation of trans men in media, and his examples of the over-representation of trans women (in said media) are 99% all examples of violent, and transphobic caricatures.
Transmisogyny is when a trans woman’s life, hopes, dreams, and aspirations are ripped away from her, pulled out from under her like a rug, at any slightly perceived transgression. A transgression that can be as simple as asking someone not to misgender her in a slightly pointed and angry way. At which point she spends years trying to convince people she’s not crazy and that she deserves justice, largely, to the sympathy of nearly no one, while simultaneously knowing that if this was any other person, of any other type of gender identification, this wouldn’t have even happened.
Transmisogyny is the expectation that a trans woman must treat your feelings with kid gloves, while disregarding her own.
Transmisogyny is when a politician expresses sexual desires toward trans women all throughout his browser history, and simultaneously legislates away her right to use a bathroom in public, because she’s obviously a man … of whoms’t you treat worse than the cis women in your life.
Transmisogyny is the intersection of misogyny and transphobia that has killed so many of my sisters, that I can’t even count them on one hand. But I can recall most of their faces, because I knew them, if not personally, by casual social discourse.
Transmisogyny is when you read this post and find yourself more angry at the fact that I’ve invalidated the concept of “misandry” rather than angry at the fact that transmisogyny is a deadly weapon that almost everyone loves to wield.
But, okay, I’ll concede. If you’re one of those angry people, you might be thinking, “Well, surely you don’t think that because people within the trans community can be transmisogynists, that they don’t also experience discrimination and oppression?” And I do. I know this.
You see, there was this concept of feminism from even more years and years ago, called, Intersectional Feminism.
And, for some reason, it died. It went under the rug. Everyone forgot about it, just like they forgot about all of these other things.
Or maybe I’ve been living on the wrong side of the internet where people suddenly just don’t talk about this anymore, who knows!
But, hey, if you’re still mad at my words here, I’m sorry. I’ll try to be more considerate next time. Or, maybe, acknowledge that reading this and having this information will have no tangible impact on your daily life that harms you in any way shape or form, and that you totally don't need to add me to your personal hit-list on Bluesky where you've assigned me the label "transmisandrist" with a description that's got more red flags than a Fox News fan at a Trump rally.
Source: https://mkultra.monster/discourse/2025/ ... smisogyny/